Ever since the Skipper (who, BTW, I love very, very much) messed up his sciatic nerve playing hockey, I have had some concerns about us attending our conference since so much sitting is involved. God opened several doors enabling us to go, so I really, really, really thought everything would work out. I still don't get why it didn't. Last night was unbearable for my hubby- way too much sitting, terrible night sleeping... He woke up this morning and very sincerely apologized to me, but said that there was just no way he could do that for two more days... I got out my Bible and read, prayed,etc, as pathetic, hot tears escaped from my eyes. God can see bigger than I, and for whatever reason, it was just not meant to be our getaway weekend right now. So, with that, we checked out and the valet parking attendant brought us back our truck- it was too high for the underground self parking. Picture this- puffy eyed red headed woman trying to look inconspicuous as she stands on steps at the grand hotel entrance with about 4 stuffed white grocery bags, waiting for her diesel chariot. The attendant pulls up and attempts to back in, and the already big loud truck starts honking...and honking some more. The attendant had not closed the driver's door completely, and in that case, the truck automatically honks when you try to reverse...Our getaway was not too subtle. We headed off to the ER down the road and got some strong pain meds, which enabled the Skipper to function more normally.
Lest you think that I think this situation was catastrophic, let me assure you that I realize that there are many, many, many worse things that could happen! It had just been so long since we had been away, and I was really looking forward to some marriage enrichment. I already can see the humour in it. Moments I am not necessarily proud of:
- having a pity party by myself last night after our last session, when my husband dragged himself up to our hotel room, had a bath to loosen up his hip and then passed out on the bed, while discussing what I was going to eat for dinner. I was in a quandry as I didn't want to eat downstairs by myself, but didn't want to order room service as it added $5.50 to already outrageous prices. He assured me that it was ok to order what I wanted and then fell asleep and was not aware of my plight when downstairs did not answer my telephone call to place my order. I shed a few tears for my sad plight, ate 2 supermarket doughnuts that were on the nightstand, and watched home reno shows till I was tired enough to sleep.
- gazing out our hotel window at the snow covered grandeur outside and loudly saying "It SUCKS that we can't go enjoy this!!!" And when my hubby, who was stretching on the floor helpfully groaned out "You could go out for a walk." I hysterically replied "NO, I can't, because we are not like you men. We grow up knowing that if we go out alone in strange places, we can get attacked and murdered!" ( I said that very similarily to how Michael from The Office makes his grand statements). Husband wisely did not attempt to reply to that one.
-being the picture of understanding this morning, yet framed in martyrdom as I gazed at my hubby and asked him to please go downstairs and let them know we would not be able to continue to attend the conference. ( Remember, he can barely walk at this point). When he asked if I would come too, I quietly shook my head and choked out, " I can't, I might cry and embarrass myself." Like he's not going to feel embarrassed when he has to crawl through the lobby to go talk to the organizers! (just so you don't think I am super evil, he was able to do it upright)
You know what though, it is all about perspective- we did get 24 hours by ourselves, even if it was not as planned.
And,
praise the Lord for:
a full credit to a future marriage conference of our choice!
ps- this song reminds me how much I love violin music- isn't it pretty? It makes me want to walk around green English country sides in the misty mornings and bump into Mr Darcy, I mean, the Skipper. Of course, I may not see him crawling by in the tall grass... (I don't know if it the late hour, or if it is just more of my bad habit of thinking my jokes are hilarious, but I am shaking with laughter picturing that!
11 comments:
Do you know that the first time we tried to go to this conference we did not get to complete it either....what stopped us....a hurricane. :(
Although girl where you go to go was absolutely fabulous! Our was in a hotel across from the airport.
I am so sorry your weekend did not work our...seems we were both sharing some massive sorrow this weekend. Yesterday was our 20th and someone forgot....BTW...it was not me. Yes, there were some tears.
Today is another day and the Lord is near.
It will be o.k. :) And hey, sometimes those tear ducts just need a little washing out. ;)
Sorry for all the misspells...I think my contact are still a little fuzzy. ;)
Love your perspective at the end.
Jane, this is one of my all-time favorite posts of yours!!! This is EXACTLY how I act half the time! It's so shameful, I know, but crap! It just happens. Hope you get back to playing your emotional "A" game soon. :)
And BTW, if you really loved me, you'd take me to Whistler! haha!!!
aww friend. boo hooin' for you. i thought about you this morning. kinda green with envy as a i read in our church bulletin about a marriage conference that was coming...but not until MARCH!! so as i felt sorry for myself and then clicked on here....well i feel something awful for you two.
sometimes it just stinks to make sacrifices. even for hubby's. but i know God will bless you in the end of all this. i'm proud of how well you swallowed this one. and for lovin' on your man even if it meant going without something you wanted so badly.
i'd say its a good night for take-out for you and the kids. bet it won't cost as much!
hugs,
linda
Oh, ow! I am so sorry your husband felt so badly! Glad you got the free conference!
We are Office fans here. Sometimes it's a bit too crude for me but mostly, it cracks me up. I could just hear your tone of voice about taking a walk!
I felt your frustration as I read on!!! So sorry it didn't turn out as expected! But at least you have a full refund!
Even in your frustration you still keep your humour!! I had a few giggles.Not at your expense though .... you're just one funny gal!
I totally completely know the feeling, and feel nothing but actual sadness for you.
manalive, disappointment is a bummer, isn't it?
While you already know that I am so very deeply sorry that your trip was ruined, I did get a big fat grin at your recounting it.
We are like fish out of water in those fancy places too...LOL!
Hope the Skipper feels better.
My first time by...and your post blessed my heart. I have so been there. Sometimes my hubby and I call ourselves the Hee Haw Family. No doubt your next conference is going to be a blessed event. I sure hope your husband is feeling better.
Were you at the Family Life marriage conference 'A Weekend to Remember'? I have to say, we have been to that one and your hotel was MUCH nicer than ours!
By the way, you are a wonderful writer.
You poor thing. I do believe every single time we have tried to go to a marriage conference, the enemy has thrown obstacle after obstacle at us! Praying right now that the next attempt at a conference is wonderful for you! :) Love to you!
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