Looking for Balance

I hae been thinking a lot about raising children lately- God's way. I guess I have started to look more closely at my parenting style since I have been reading Grace Based Parenting. Part of bringing up your children in grace, the same way God treats us as children, is to not parent in a fear-based fashion. Dr. Kimmel, the author of Grace Based Parenting, describes fearful parents as those who are scared Hollywood, Internet, public school, drugs, the gay community, partying neighbours, etc. He writes that this style of parenting "is the surest way to raise Christian kids who either don't have any passion for lost people, are indifferent to the things of God, or out-and-out rebel against their parents, their church, and the Lord". Ouch. My husband and I are not legalistic like some I know, but when I read this I felt convicted. We do try to keep our children away from certain ungodly influences, whether it be some types of music, public school, certain friends...where is the balance? Am I trying to keep them too safe? My kids talk about one day wanting to go back into public school- I cringe thinking about what they will encounter there. We live in a very New Age culture here- meditation, yoga, Wicca, sex ed is freely taught in our schools. Here in BC, homosexuality is being strongly pushed into our school curriculum, with an emphasis being put on tolerance. The problem with that is that they are also teaching that anything that contradicts with this agenda is hate. (I just want to add that I am not a die-hard homeschooler who looks down on those Christians with kids in public school. We are homeschooling because I felt God strongly lay that on my heart. We take it year to year whether or not we will continue.) I know Christian kids who went on to serve the Lord who went to public school, Christian school, or homeschool. I know those who did not have a sincere relationship with God and they were homeschooled or went to Christian school. Homeschooling my children is not going to guarantee that they will make wise choices and serve the Lord. I do think about how I would feel if I had to go to work in an atmosphere where foul language was used, New Age was preached, and I was not allowed to present my faith in an open manner and then I wonder if it is fair to send my children into an environment like that 5 days a week. (again, so as not to offend, I am presenting the more negative aspect of my thinking right now- I know that there is good and positive things going on in public school too) Anyways, I digress from my main point. I am wrestling with this whole idea of finding a balance between raising kids strong enough to be in the world without putting them in environments that contradict what we are teaching them at home. It is something I am praying about. I would love to have your feedback.