I finally realized full force that we are dealing with what I call "The Trickle Down Effect" around here. There has been too much snide tone all around, and today my 11 year old yelled at me. That's a first. I calmly told him that it hurt to have him speak to me like that. When he later came to apologize, he said "I
know yelling hurts because you yell at me." OOOOPH. That punch landed. Not that he meant it as one. It impacted me because it is true at times. It seems that I get less patient with my kids as they get older, and that's not good. Tonight when the Skipper got home, I asked him if we could make a pact as parents to not raise our voices anymore. We are going to come up with some plans for a family meeting in the near future. Do any of you have some ideas for an accountablity program for all of us? I think number one is getting back to our early morning Bible/prayer time as a couple.
Sigh. I wanted to just be the greatest parent ever...I am so flawed!
Add to that the worry of a divorced parent: If my child views the grass greener over at my ex's house, he will move there too. Why live with me when he can play unlimited video games, watch pretty much whatever he wants on tv, etc? I finally brewed a mug of tea, got out my prayer journal and Bible and just poured my guts out. Feeling more peace now. Parenting is HARD- glad I can fall back on God's grace and forgiveness!
4 comments:
Oh, praying for you this evening for all the grace you need to make it through each day! For all to be slow to anger and abounding in love!
jen @ www.diaryof1.com
So true, I am so thankful for God's grace! I don't have any suggestions. Still working on that one myself. I am so glad that God can work all things together for His good, even well intentioned flawed parenting.
:>Michelle
EVERY parent is flawed. A mom I know, who's had four children and homeschooled them for some of that time once told me how grateful she was that God could deliver her children from whatever mistakes she made.
I'm rather glad for that as well. It's worrisome to think that they'll need it - but You know what? I needed it with my parents. They were flawed, too.
Hang in there my friend!!!!
OH - And I hate when my kids throw emotional punches!!!!!
Wow...I know this has been up for awhile...wonder how things are going.
The last time Keith was home we both realized what happens when busyness gets in the way of time together in the word...we become sharp impatient people we don't like too much.
We have worked on this.
It is rough when our children hit the age where they have a voice...I remember this well with Michael and we are there now with Julia.
I imagine that pastors often feel like you do...timid about using the strong hand because the little sheep will want down the road to another shepherd. Blessed are those who are willing to bow their knees and follow the true Shepherds wisdom....and leave the consequences to Him. He's got your back girl. :)
Love ya
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