Saturday, May 22, 2010
Here We Go Again...
It's that time of year again- the sound of lawnmowers can be heard around the neighbourhood on sunny days, amidst the squeals of the groups of children biking, skateboarding, etc. My man is fishing daily for what seems to be "elusive" prawns this season, school is winding down, and I am choosing curriculum for next year's home schoolers. So far that is going to be my 2 youngest, who are going into K and gr 2. I am praying tons about our daughter. As some of you know, she is currently living with her dad on the other side of the province, and had decided to return this summer to live here again...it is no longer a sure thing, which is the cause of fervent prayers, and close to the surface tears. My daughter is smart, beautiful, talented, outgoing, empathetic, humorous, and fun loving...she is also one of those children who can get a little side tracked by worldly things- if we are honest, we all experience this to a certain extent. When you combine this predisposition with a teenage brain, and the heart of a child from a failed marriage, things can get confusing and off track. Her father has seen for himself the reasons why I wanted to tuck her in at home and school her for this last year. Unfortunately, he gave her the option of living with him and attending public school instead...she choose the latter. While she has lived with him this past year, he has gained more understanding of my concerns (lest you think my daughter is a black sheep or is doing horrible things, I feel I should set the record straight- she isn't, it is just I see a leaning towards the worldly attitudes that our kids come into contact with constantly through media, peers, and public school). So, in the last few weeks, we have been talking about homeschooling her for gr 9, as she has already decided to move back here. He said he was in 100% agreement with that, but needed to think about it some more. The result was that he talked about it with our daughter, told her that if she moved back with me, she would be home schooled, but he would not make her...meaning, if she stays with him again, he will let her attend the public high school she is already attending- the one he complains is a bad influence on her. There are a lot of things I could say....but let's just say I am praying that even though my daughter has been given an unhealthy amount of power, she would still make the right choice. I am not saying that "I" am the better parent and the best option, but that child needs to be plugged back in with her family and her faith and to have time to grow stronger. I would be so thankful for the prayers of my fellow Christian blog friends over this. Please pray that God would be bigger than the situation. Please pray for my emotions as well-getting my heart all in knots about it at this point is not going to be helpful. God has been faithful and will continue to be so, even if it is in a situation that I do not want to play out again... Maybe we can even pray for a miracle- that my ex would realize that this needs to be a decision that the PARENTS make- that it is an unfair choice to lay on a child. That would be an amazing answer to prayer.
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Can I just say to all teens(not that any read my blog): live for God and marry a MAN...then you, and your kids won't be in this situation. Stupid teenage me.
praying God will intervene in every area. I'd be ...Not handling this well at all. :-)
Love you!!
And here we go again with the lovely ripping of our mother hearts.
I am so sorry you are going through this....I understand the ache even if the circumstances are not the same. I have seen a few things in my 12 year old girl that concern me...the attitude and the interests that bother me. And you can believe we talk about it....and I pray those little seeds go deep.
I will pray about this. And encourage you to revisit what you know....God will use this for the good in both of your lives.
We have already seen the fruit of our labor start to pop up in Michael's life....and I know you know the drama and pain we went through with him.
Hold on to what your godly mother's heart is telling you...and cling to His promises.
And you are right.....girls....watch those roving eyes.Just because a guy is eye candy and is popular--does not mean that he is going to be a prince to live with.
With much prayer.....lots of tears....and much patience I have found my prince. Who knew that 21 years ago there was a prince and a princess that would one day be revealed.
"Talk about hard work that pays off".....God. :)
Keep praying...and I will too. Sorry for the ramble. :)
Praying for your situation! You've certainly got a lot going on. I'm sure it will all work out. Hang in there, mama.
Hugs!
I haven't been in blog world at all lately so I am completely out of the loop on everything...this broke my heart to read. And of course I am rejoicing with you on the outcome. You are an incredible woman and mother. You inspire me.
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